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I am getting married in a week and i am a mormon. Being a Mormon nither me or my fiance have had sex. My question is- Did you have sex on your wedding night? How aggressive were you? What are some things you did for foreplay? and could you please walk me through what you did on your wedding night Ect. Please dont think of me as a perv i just want to know what to do.
P.S. please dont say things like he'll guide you "talk about it" if your getting married you shouldnt be asking Ect thanks for your time
Ok just let me know what you can to the questions if you cant answer please dont
Yes we had sex on our wedding night. In terms of agressiveness, no it was not agressive, it was very tender and loving with a lot of kissing, touching as well as actual intercourse.
Here's the thing. Because you are a virgin, your husband will need to arouse you first with lots of kissing, touching, and cuddling to umm…get the juices flowing in you, so to speak. That's what is known as foreplay. For your first time, try to have at least 20 minutes of foreplay first. Foreplay is very important for the woman to get aroused enough to a) lubricate down there; and b) achieve greater sexual satisfaction.
Once you are sufficiently aroused, he will need to enter you slowly….very slowly. That's ok, you kiss in the meanwhile…and that is very sweet. And extra foreplay time for you. Yay!
Your mind will confuse some of the sensations you are feeling the first few times with other stuff because everything is so close together down there and there are shared muscles and your mind will attribute various sensations to something it already knows . The first few times I had intercourse, I felt like I had to poop NOW and I made him stop so I could run into the bathroom…and not poop.
Just have fun with it and go slow. You can go at each other more aggressively after your body has healed from having its hymen torn and you are more comfortable sexually. Go at a pace that seems comfortable for the both of you. You are allowed to tell him to go faster or slower if you like.
Beyond that, I'm sure you've seen enough movies or tv that you should have a general idea of the mechanics of it all.
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This is not something where step by step instructions are going to be very useful. There is a difference between not knowing what to expect your first time, and needing to be told what you should do. Don't worry about sounding like a perv - you just sound like you have no idea what you're doing.
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No, we did not have sex on our wedding night. We were both way too tired after the whole day of activities.
Congrats
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We have been instinctively reproducing for millions of years…don't worry, when the passion and the hormones kick in you won't need any step-by-step instructions.
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I mean why would you want to do what someone has done on there wedding not trust me when you get in that room and you and him both never had it before and now you are free to go at it. It will all just come together and you will think that you have been doing it all your life. So just enjoy yourself and let your hair down and enjoy the ride. Good Luck
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well oddly enough the hubs and i didnt have sex on our wedding night.. but we had before im not in the same situation as you..
but i suggest you just take it slow since neither of you have ever done it. dont get nervous and to scared to actully do it ok
kissing, touching, playing with each other are always good forplay options..
if you want to suprise him you might read some articles about things to do and try
Congrats and good luck!!!
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Wouldn't asking this question bring impure thoughts into your head and isn't that just as bad as having sex before marriage?
hehe just kidding, just let the hormones fly and go with the flow, with all that built up tension I would probably explode into a sex frenzy and tear the walls down. But thats me…
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Yes we had sex on our wedding night. In terms of agressiveness, no it was not agressive, it was very tender and loving with a lot of kissing, touching as well as actual intercourse.
Here's the thing. Because you are a virgin, your husband will need to arouse you first with lots of kissing, touching, and cuddling to umm…get the juices flowing in you, so to speak. That's what is known as foreplay. For your first time, try to have at least 20 minutes of foreplay first. Foreplay is very important for the woman to get aroused enough to a) lubricate down there; and b) achieve greater sexual satisfaction.
Once you are sufficiently aroused, he will need to enter you slowly….very slowly. That's ok, you kiss in the meanwhile…and that is very sweet. And extra foreplay time for you. Yay!
Your mind will confuse some of the sensations you are feeling the first few times with other stuff because everything is so close together down there and there are shared muscles and your mind will attribute various sensations to something it already knows . The first few times I had intercourse, I felt like I had to poop NOW and I made him stop so I could run into the bathroom…and not poop.
Just have fun with it and go slow. You can go at each other more aggressively after your body has healed from having its hymen torn and you are more comfortable sexually. Go at a pace that seems comfortable for the both of you. You are allowed to tell him to go faster or slower if you like.
Beyond that, I'm sure you've seen enough movies or tv that you should have a general idea of the mechanics of it all.
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Many couples doesn't have sex the wedding night because they are tired and because they need to get used to be alone. If you are nervous, maybe is better to wait and spend the night kissing and talking until you feel relaxed and excited.
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Hey, I'm LDS and my husband and I were both virgins. We did have sex the first night, I think I would have been happier cuddling but my husband has a lot of raging hormones LOL. The biggest mistake we made was warming lube, if you get lube just get plain ol' lube. The warming lube burned, and sex for the first time hurts too… so it wasn't a pleasant experience for me. But I still had a good time too. We had good smelling massage oils and gave each other massages. There was also a big jacuzzi tub that we both soaked in and drank sparkling cider. In the Morning we showered together.
As for foreplay, just cuddle nekkid, makeout, and experiment with touching each other's genitals
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You and your fiance must feel comfortable talking about other things, I am thinking.
(I'm trying to think of how to say this without sounding flip or something)
If you don't feel comfortable talking to him about it before your wedding, then when you are alone for the first time after, and you are still somewhat anxious, talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Chances are, he's feeling the same way. So, you talk, and you just be with him and you just try to feel comfortable with each other, and you know, you will be surprised that you felt any sort of anxiety at all. That's how it was with me and my husband, at least.
I admire that you and he both decided to wait. That will make it extra special, believe me. You will both work things out, I know. Don't get uptight about it, and it will be all right.
I hope I was able to help some. I know that "Oh, you'll work it out" is not what you really wanted to hear, but it IS true.
Congratulations early on your wedding.
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I think you need to be open with each other. coming form UT and being ex-mormon I have heard soemthings mormons arn;t suppose to do, but then again that they can do them if both partners agree so you may want to talk about OS if you know what the initails mean as being used for foreply maybe later and not for the first night as you are virgins and it takes some gettign use to and knowing how to do. You will find that you women need foreplay in order to get into the mood and men do not, and soemtiems women need some lube as well. I enjoy sharing a shower and doing it in the showers as well and differant positions, and you may have to dicuss positions with your husband as well, as well as doing mutual massages on each other. Men arn't much for cuddling, but if he is, then you got yourself a winner.
Also some nights you may want to take off the temple garments and out on something sexy even tho it may not stay on for long-LOL.
I was sexually abused when I was four but left a virgin, still I did not know the first thing as to what to do when i got married at 21, I could not do it the first night, I could not relax, probably the sexual abuse, so I had to ask for advise and not from members of my church, from secular people outside of the church, they told me to get some lubrication and to get on top this time and guide myself in. There will always be some pain when you stop being a virgin and blood, you have to watch out for the blood, there was alot with me, I think I wa s on birth control at the sametime and so I was on that time of the month as well.
Listen I am way too open about this stuff and I don;t want to disrespect you if you have any question…email me.
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